In “Date-onomics: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game,” out today, Birger, a former writer for Fortune and Money magazines, crunched demographic, census and other data to show that it really is historically rough out there for the ladies.
After noticing that his single gal pals were always complaining that “guys were ignoring them or were toying with them,” Birger decided to investigate.
Census), and compared this to how often men and women on Coffee Meets Bagel LIKE their matches (using 800,000 matches).
This is true across America, almost without exception (single women outnumber men in a half-dozen cities). Brownstone Brooklyn, the closest my borough has to a Manhattan, is ⑤, sporting about 20% more women than men.
Extra single men was a clear trend everywhere, so there was no reason to look closer, right? As far as I can tell, New York City as a whole only has more single men than single women because of immigrant communities.
A mutual LIKE leads to a direct connection via a private phone line that the couple can use to communicate.
Now that you’re reminded of how CMB works, let’s see if having more options allows men and women to be pickier about their bagels. As I predicted, men in cities like NYC and DC, where there are a lot of women available, LIKED their matches much less often than men in cities where there are fewer women (e.g., San Antonio and Denver). Women in larger cities like New York and Los Angeles, with lots of men available, were actually less picky than women in smaller cities like Detroit or Seattle. What we haven’t accounted for is the competition factor: if you’re a woman in a big city with a lot of men to choose from, there are also a lot of other women going after the same men.
Birger says the imbalance is also exacerbated by New York’s large population of gay males.
Some 9 to 12 percent of men in Manhattan are gay, according to Gary Gates, a demographics expert at UCLA’s Williams Institute.
My singles map gets updated every single year, and every time it’s the exact same result: you complaining ladies must be crazy. While there might be more single men in NYC than single women, they aren’t who you think.
Take a look at this map about what life is really like as a single person in NYC – it’s singles organized by age and zip code. Note #2: This data is from the Census Bureau’s American Community Survey, Table B12002. Men have a couple holdouts, with the blue chunk on the left and the one at the bottom.
a “Bagel”), whom they must LIKE or PASS within 24 hours.
These Bagels are friends of friends who also meet the member’s basic match preference criteria – gender, age, race, religion – which the members tell us when they first register with CMB.
Based on his research, here are eight reasons why women can’t find a man — and strategies for increasing their odds. “Because women have been graduating from college in 30-plus percent greater numbers than men for years, there are now four women for every three men nationally in the marriage-age, college-educated dating market,” Birger says.